In every pack there are leaders (Alphas) or dominate members, and followers (Betas) or submissive members. As a pack member, your dog is happiest when it does not have to think and can just be a dog. They like knowing their place, what they can and, most importantly, CAN NOT do. There is a long list of common behavior issues that begin to arise when the lines and social strata are blurred, and the dog must decide for itself who is an Alpha and who is a Beta. When this happens, family members may be deemed as a Beta by your dog that will of COURSE see itself as an Alpha, or even THE Alpha. This can lead to dominate, aggressive, or even potentially dangerous behaviors.
In the world of good vs. bad dog behaviors, this is very high up on the BAD list. Your dog should never have to decide anything for itself, but instead know what is expected from it at all times. From the moment it comes into your home it should know its place in the social hierarchy and that all humans are Alphas over it. Quite simply put, when not all pack members are not applying rules and discipline equally you will end up creating your own “monster.”
How do you avoid becoming your dogs Dr Frankenstein and creating a “monster” out of your wonderful, loving pet? It is quite simple actually, and all it takes is education, communication, and repetition:
- Education - Read, Research, Learn
- Educate yourself on how to effectively communicate with your dog
- Use this as the foundation for setting the rules
- Communication - All humans must be on the same page
- This means that the rules must be discussed, agreed upon, and enforced – every time, all the time. Whether the dog IS or is NOT allowed on the couch is irrelevant. What is important is that whatever the rule is everyone enforces it the same
- These rules need to be simple and unambiguous. Confusing the dog with complicated rules and too much talking is a common problem
- Repetition - So often the root cause of behavior issues can be traced directly to unequal application of discipline
- Every Time, All the time!
- The rules MUST be consistently enforced by all other Alpha pack members, meaning the humans
Disclaimer: If your dog has any behavior issues that concern you or you feel may be unsafe, please contact a professional dog trainer for a consultation.
How does one work with a (small) dog and (small-ish) children to get everyone on the same page? My 9lb 1 year old tibetian spaniel is very territorial in our house, specifically over the adults, and we have had several incidents of biting and nipping. We initally had 2 of these dogs, and incident #1 led us to find a new home for the older boy (at a close friends house) because I believed he just wasn't child-friendly. But the girl does it too. The kids understand the rules, but as kids can be, they get a little overbearing with the dog, which I think freaks her out and causes the nipping. Any suggestions?
ReplyDeleteCaroline,
ReplyDeleteThe SIZE of the dog does not matter at all, a dog is a dog is a dog. The breed does come into play, as it is a defining factor in what you have as a dog.
Does the dog gravitate to a specific person? Is it "mommies dog" and everyone else is a stranger? This seems to be a common occurrence, especially with the smaller toy breeds. make sure the dog knows the people come first, and that they are a distant second. If someone comes up to you (or whomever is holding the dog)and the dog growls, etc., tell it NO, and then put it on the floor while you and the person chat. This should help the dog begin to understand its place in the pecking order.
Another thing that has helped me is watching the Dog Whisperer and using his technique of holding the dog down with a "claw hand" to simulate another dog holding it down by its neck. Hold them down until they FULLY submit and relax, then let them up.
If you describe the issue with a little more specificity I might be able to give you some more focused advice, however the above should help.
As always, if you feel this is a real issue, see professional help (for your dog, not yourself!)